Relating to Others with Love and Devotion

2016-101 Every human being misses the mark in small ways, in subtle ways throughout their life. Part of this is because of the difference between what is material and what is spiritual, but we would like you to start using the word “conscious” instead of spiritual. Everything that exists comes from consciousness. Everything that the human being considers spirit is simply consciousness in its un-manifest form. The human being, when it begins to access these higher levels of consciousness, the human being is so used to trying to create material manifestations, to create material things, when the human being tries to take hold of consciousness, it’s like holding a wiggly fish. Until the human understands how to hold it, it can be slippery and jump out of its hands and wiggle around, and it doesn’t always fall into the pot to be cooked. So this elusiveness of consciousness is in part what the human being has to learn how to hold, and hence we say the human being frequently misses the mark with the things human beings try to do.

2016-102 The church, or what is taught by the church for the purpose of worship, like many other things can become a tool of power and authority. Hence there is the approach to God that begins with admitting one’s faults and sins, and then asking to receive what the power and authority are understood to give, including forgiveness, and then there is the communion, which is for spiritual nourishment. In Jeffrey’s desire to hold this, he accepted what he was taught. Now we wish to explain something that is a little closer to the mark, knowing that there is always going to be a movement toward God that corrects the aim or the direction that Jeffrey seeks. In God, and through those avatars that manifest God in the world, is great compassion and kindness and love. And Jeffrey understands and adores this compassion and love that is manifest from God, and it’s easy for him to see this in people in certain circumstances. So he can see it in birth and in death, he can see it in his close relationship with Stelli, he can see it in his love for his children, and he can adore and devote himself to that love. But as he said this morning at the table at breakfast, his other understanding, his spiritual understanding is blocked by his inability to have this same feeling of devotion, this same sense of devotion toward other people. In order for him to unlock this compassion and kindness, he needs to see his ability to listen, his ability to be present, his sense of wonder and devotion directed toward other people in the same way that he directs it toward God, or toward those with whom he has affinity. Other human beings, when they are given this kind of compassion and kindness, frequently cannot hold the gaze of a person who reaches out to them or wishes to hold them with this kind of compassion. So this is the field in which Jeffrey is now roaming, trying to find that way of relating to other people. We need to make sure that there is the understanding that this is not simply caring for other people in the sense that the world cares for other members of the world. This devotion comes from a very Christ-like recognition of that which is present in the other person and seeking expression. Already Jeffrey knows that the people that are around you seek that expression through him. They are there to be present with him, and it is in alignment with his greater purpose that he be that devotion, that compassion and love for all of the people that you meet in the world. As you can imagine, this is a big purpose, and this naturally leads you to understand and Jeffrey to understand what this means when you see and hear things from other people, whether expressed or whether it is held within themselves in secret. The key to understanding what to do and how to be is in this devotion. And this is why when we go back to the example of the church, that there is in the ritual part of human life, the remembering and the devotion to what is divine, and then carrying this back out into the world. So we can see that the church misses the mark in the same way that Jeffrey misses the mark in thinking that the message being given should be listened to or that the message of authority should hold the same position of authority with others, and when the energy of this intention develops, then the people rebel in various ways. As Stelli says, “They act out or act up” because within themselves, at some deep level for some or at some level closer to the surface, they know that there is the need for the expression of the devotion and the compassion. It is easier to give to children. It’s easier for children to give, but it is also easier to give to children. So the exploration and the holding of this devotion, just in the same way the ideal is used by Jeffrey in meditation and in the development in consciousness, there is the parallel element of devotion that needs to be emphasized.

2016-104 (What about me [Stelli] and that process? I have a lot of anger and judgment that I’m struggling with?) In some ways this is similar to Jeffrey, but it holds a particular emotional pattern for you because of the ways that you have been controlled in the past. The anger and the fear come from wanting to release the bonds that you have placed on yourself and accepted that others have placed on you or that hold you. Understand that others will always try to hold you or control you in various ways. That is not the issue. This issue is the same for almost every human being. But the ones that you have accepted, the ones that you have allowed to control you, the ones that hold power over you, by your own acceptance, this is where anger comes from and it is a result of the fear that you will not let go of yourself or cannot let go yourself. Like other forms of anger or frustration, once those are released, the anger and the fear will dissipate. For you and for many people, there is sometimes the fear that you must express that anger in order to release it and that the process of releasing will result in this crazy angry behavior. But if you look carefully inside, you will see that the fear that you will express this anger and this angry behavior is the last attempt by the ego to use the anger and the fear to control you. The ego uses the fact that you are going to release those in one final attempt to hold onto them to control. It is not always true, but like many other things that you see, frequently people that describe their inability to express themselves for fear of expressing anger or fear, this is frequently the dynamic that exists within. At another level, when the anger or fear is not expressed because of a spiritual rule or a spiritual understanding, again you see how the ego co-opts the process and slides into a position either the fear of expression for fear of not wanting to hurt others or the fear of expression of breaking protocol or a rule or that there is a spiritual harm in expressing, in releasing this anger. These are all very subtle attempts by the ego, in one last attempt to co-opt the process of release. This is why it is sometimes so humiliating afterwards, after the expression of the anger or fear. The person that feels the humiliation is the ego that induces the feeling. You might see this in the same way to help you understand in the same way as crying. You already understand that there is a non-egoic release possible, that there is the cathartic moment of release that is expressed in the body by the tears, and that there is not a need to fix the crying. And the same is true with the fear and anger. This is why many people who are seen as courageous, they are able to act after they have expressed their fear because their fear no loner holds them, and they act in ways that are helpful. This is why it is particularly harmful to use the fear of people to accomplish things in the world. You can be sure that where there is the instigation of fear in order to gain power or control or to gain authority, this is a difficult karmic path to follow. And we don’t mean difficult in the sense of difficult to do good, we mean it leads to difficult experiences that give up control to selfish and self-centered behaviors.